Love & Respect Book Review | STACIE RAYE

Love & Respect Book Review

In the heart of every marriage is a deep desire to have love & respect. For women, this is a must have. For men, this is a deep need. Since it's Valentines Day, I thought I would share a book that is appropriate for the holiday.

"Love & Respect: The Love She Most Desires and The Respect He Desperately Needs", by Dr. Emerson Eggerrichs has over 1 million copies in print. I've never heard of it until I was recently asked to review it.

In our home library, we have a slew of books on marriage, what he wants, what she wants and so on and so forth, but this one stood out to me. Particularly, because the author has it right when it comes to relationships. When reading this book, you'll find that it is solely based on the scripture Ephesians 5:33, "Each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband" (NIV).

It starts out with a few real life scenarios that were all too familiar to me. You know those kind of conversations. Husband says something. Wife takes it another way and gets mad. Husband gets defensive, angry, and walks out. Wife thinks what's he so upset about when she was the one who was wronged! Happen in your house? I plead the fifth!

This wild behavior is appropriately titled, "The Crazy Cycle". (You mean they actually have a name for this?) Unfortunately, couples around the world take a ride in this Merry-go-round on a consistent basis.

The author go on to explain that this cycle exists in marriages because the basic need of love & respect aren't being met. She doesn't feel loved so she acts in a way that disrespects her husband. He feels disrespected and reacts in an unloving way.

So what do we do? I'm glad you asked! As you read further, you will find the answer of how to get off this crazy cycle. One way is learning to show love regardless of whether or not your respected. And, vice versa. Seems easier said than done, I know. But, this book goes into detail about how you can overcome this obstacle and have the marriage you long for.

My thoughts:

This book was truly an eye opener! I thought that we were the only ones on "The Crazy Cycle" and learned a bit more about my husband. I even bought the gift book for Valentine's Day for our devotion time. If you've been frustrated or just want to solidify an already stable union, I definitely recommend this book and give it 5 stars!


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