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10 Life Lessons that The 40's Will Teach You

There's something about turning the big 4-0 that makes you reflect on your life and where you are at.
I know a woman isn't supposed to tell her age but I have nothing to hide.

Today is my birthday and it has me reflecting on life well in my forties and how growing older changes you.

a woman looking outside a window drinking coffee

Life Lessons the 40's Have Taught Me

1. If you haven't gotten serious about your health, it's time to start. Exercising, drinking more water, and making healthier food choices is so important. We're not spring chickens anymore.

2. Stop playing games. When I was a child I spoke as a child...
Sometimes it's hard if this habit has been embedded in you but you can change your actions and behavior.

3. Forgive. It's time to deal with those issues that are holding you back. Tomorrow isn't promised and we're not getting any younger.

4. Embrace Change. Over time, people change. Relationships change. Even you may change. Don't get stuck on the way you've always done something. It may be time to switch things up a bit.

5. Try something new whether it's picking up photography or taking a spin class for the first time. New experiences will enrich your life.

6. Deepen your relationship with God. Honestly, this is probably the most important one here. Having regular devotions and praying will strengthen your walk with Christ and others.

7. Do it afraid. Don't allow fear to keep you from your dream. Whether it's traveling or singing on stage, do it anyway and  you'll see it wasn't that bad.

8. Don't Procrastinate. Don't put off things until tomorrow. This is a hard one, ask me how I know. But we never know what life will bring us. The grave is full of folks with unrealized dreams and desires.

9. It is what it is. Somethings will never change. Honestly, you can't change a person no matter how hard you try. The more you accept this truth the easier your life will be. The fact is, when you do accept the truth, you may be forced to make changes in your life.

10. You create the life you want. There's nothing like sitting thinking about where you are in life and feeling bad about how you got there. If you have regrets, sometimes it's because of the choices you have made. Want things to be different? Then do something different!

Now I won't profess that I have it all together. These are just a sample of the lessons that growing older has taught and is continuing to teach me. I'm definitely still a work in progress, but I'm enjoying the journey.

Does your birthday cause you to reflect back on your life?


  1. Oh yes. . having another birthday causes so much reflection. Thanks for this post.

  2. Amen, to all of these...I think you covered them all....Especially, it is what it is...Life is too short, to sweat the small things...All you can change is yourself, to do better, be a better person....Go head girl...

    1. Thanks! I think this has been the hardest lesson for me to learn.

  3. O yes for sure. And well written post Stacie. I am also in my 40's now and I so agree with this widsom girly!

  4. These are some great lessons you've shared. I know I can learn a lot from what you've shared.

  5. Entering my 40's wasn't so much about reflection, but more about letting people and things that upset me go. It was hard, but things have gotten much easier, and I am a happier human.

  6. Honestly, sometimes my birthday sneaks up on me. I will be 33 in March and most of the time I have to think hard about how old I am. This year I wrote it on the calendar so at least the day won't come and I say, "Oh, it's my birthday." Sad, I know...lol

  7. Every year I turn another year older I reflect on what is what was and what I want it to be. I turn 40 next year and I can't wait. Happy Birthday!

  8. Happy birthday lady! Yes. I love reflecting over the previous years as I am blessed with another year. I hope you enjoyed your day

  9. My mom is entering her 60's and has just become caring about her health due to it declining. I think the sooner people get started, the better (of course). Many people avoid looking at their health straight in the eye, which is really important.

  10. I'm praying for the day where I can embrace change without going crazy

  11. Happy belated birthday, Stacie! I love your advice and think anyone would be able to benefit from hearing it, regardless of age.

  12. Great post, and great advice for anyone of any age! Happy Birthday!

  13. I expected to reflect quite a bit when I turned 30 last year. But I'm finding that in these months leading up to my 31st I've been contemplating quite a bit.

  14. Happy Happy Birthday, May God continue to bless you with many more. I'm working on trying to have a closer relationship with God!

  15. Girl, thank you. I will turn 40 myself in October, and I am also one of those people who likes to reflect around birthday time. I agree with ALL the pointers you gave and will definitely implement them into my lifestyle.

  16. To be honest, I have never been reflective on my birthdays just grateful to be celebrating another one. I am in my 56th year and looking forward to staying healthy and happy and still in love with life and my hubby of 27 years.

  17. This list is great for any age, honestly. Each birthday I'm thankful that I'm celebrating another one.


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